CL Stories – Friends with Benefits [Chapter 44]

I've been hearing a lot of comments about the movie friends with benefits. It's probably one of the most interesting films to hit the silver screen this year. I haven't seen it myself but based from the comments I hear from people it's actually a good one. What makes it a good movie? What does Friends with benefits really mean? What are the limitations? What are the do's and don'ts? What are the pros and cons? Why do some people resent it and why do some people fancy it? When I first heard the term “friends with benefits” probably about 5 or 6 years ago it only meant one thing for me. The pleasure of having a friend you can have sex with. Let’s be blunt about it. Sex nowadays is as common as the liquors you drink every weekend. Ages ago talking about sex is taboo. The word itself sets your parents in a steroid-like rage. That might be an exaggeration but nonetheless it is true and it gets them upset. I myself am not washing my hands clean of this “friends with benefits” act. I have tried it but I do not intent to keep on practicing it. If you will ask people what “friends with benefits” is for them, I’m sure that they will give synonymous answers. Some will say it has no strings attached and no emotions involved. No ifs, no buts just plain friends with a little side dish called “sex”. In my honest opinion, it is impossible for this thing to happen successfully without any strings attached or any emotions involved. If it’s a total stranger that you’re having sex with (not that I’m judging people with that kind of lifestyle, on the contrary I admire them for the kind of courage they have to do that!) then it’s not friends with benefits. It’s just a plain hook up. Friends with benefits involved the two of you having known each other for an ample amount of time which will be sufficient enough for both of you to be sexually comfortable with each other. Just from the point where the two of you became friends there are already strings attached but is just not too tight and there are already some emotions involved but not too deep. Eventually by preferring to have sex with your friend it creates an atmosphere of intimacy and emotional investment wherein either both of you are just simply ignoring that fact or you are hiding your true feelings towards each other since it didn’t start right and by doing that you uphold each side of agreement to the label “friends with benefits”. It may or may not be true. There is still very little of what we can understand regarding human emotions and human psyche. It is a case to case basis and maybe further studies may prove that the label “friends with benefits” may indeed involve strong emotional connections between the people involved.

“You don’t have sex with someone you don’t love. It is certain that you love that person even at an infinitesimal smidgen. That’s why it’s called LOVE MAKING”